Thursday, January 31, 2013

Why ProLife has to be Pro Women

The ProLife movement has got to meet head on the claim that we are not Pro Woman and educate the the non-pro woman elements in our ranks.  To be ProLife, we have to support women.  There has never been a woman who skipped up to an abortion clinic saying "Yeah! I get to have an abortion".  It goes against our nature.  The forces in the past that denigrated a woman who had an unwanted pregnancy and made her a permanent second class citizen for having a baby out of wedlock, were anti woman and not ProLife.  ProLife should, and does in many cases, support these women now.  Many pro life group work to help them bear the burden of bringing the child into the world and either give the child up or get started as a new parent.  Abortion supports the idea that the mistaken pregnancy is so wrong and so shameful that the woman's child has to be sacrificed.  How does that empower a woman?  It says you did something so wrong you now have to go against your very nature.  We are designed to want to protect our offspring.  Even those who reject God and the idea he made us must agree that we by our nature want to protect our children.  To make a woman believe that an abortion is something that won't effect her, is wrong.  It goes against how we are.  ProLife understands and wants to help and support these women.

 Abortion, like suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and just as unfortunate.  We need to work within our culture to promote the idea of the woman who decides to give her child life ia a hero.  If she doesn't want to raise the child, we should congratulate, support, and thank her for giving her child up for adoption.  We need to make that choice attractive, and promote that idea in our culture.   If churches would create a fund to support these women while they are pregnant and do what they to make their lives better after they give the child up that might help.  At the very least we can promote this in the media.

Until we take charge of this issue of being pro woman, the otherside will continue to promote the idea that this is still the 1950s and women have no control over their lives and so have to hide an unwanted pregnancy through abortion.  Maybe the truth is that the otherside finds the idea that women are human and flawed and make mistakes so appalling that they are ashamed of the woman and think she should hide the evidence.  Women are human and there will be unwanted pregnancies.  We need as a culture to accept this idea and support women to do what is best for them.  Bring their child to term and either keep the child or give it up.  They say we are anti woman because we don't accept abortion.  I say that what we don't accept is the idea that women need to be made to suffer for an unwanted pregnancy.

The Big Lie - Who is really fighting a war on Women?

The lie is that the Pro Abortion side is really on the side of women, they know what is best for us, how women should live.  Even if we don't want to.  They tells that we shouldn't rely on our families and other relationships for fulfillment.  Work is where we are to find our happiness.  We don't need children and love to be happy.  We can put off having children as long as we want and then, if we must, we can have a child later when we have our careers.  We don't even need to marry to have those children either, better in fact to be single moms.  This is bullshit.  Sorry to be blunt but I often wonder if any of the people who made this up are women.  After years of delaying my life to get my career going I now see that unless I someday become Jane Goodall or Jane Austin the meaning in my life comes from the impact I have on those around me, my family and friends.  I don't have children, and I regret that, I will always regret that.  I will however never regret that I didn't spend more time at work pushing papers and doing something that could be done by almost anyone else.  Talking, teaching,a nd being with young people is much more important to me.  Having an impact on their lives building them up is more important to me.  And why can't the world change and allow women to both have children and advance in their careers?  Why can't the world change to make being a family easier?  Do we have to buy into the idea that we all have to now fit in the old mold of working men?  Even men for that matter?  I challenge the young people of this world to not accept that we have to live to work.  We need to work to live.  When life is the focus of our lives we know that personal relationships, love, marriage, family, and community is way more important than money.  Success shouldn't be measured by how much money you have but how many relationships.  We are told that casual sex is what we should want and that if a child is conceived we can dispose of it without any consequences.  To do this people have to become objects to us that are there only for our pleasure.  A bit of our humanity has to die.  Then we are told that children are our right and we can do whatever we want to bring them about.  The child then becomes our possession and not a free gift of God.  Once we have that child, God forbid we want to spend time with them, unless it's to push them to become what we want.  A happy well adjusted child is sacrificed for a successful child who goes to the right school and gets right job.  Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed, we were made by God to love and be loved.  All else is illusion and fleeting.

Friday, January 25, 2013

October Baby

I didn't know when I took off early from work today how many tears I was going to shed.  We watched the movie October Baby a great John Schneider movie.  It's about a girl who was the product of a failed abortion and her journey.  To find out you weren't wanted by the woman who carried you would be so hard.  But this movie was about forgiveness.  I didn't because it was sad, even though it was in parts, but because it was beautiful.  I liked that it was a bit messy.  The girls parents were human and made mistakes.  The biological mother got forgiven and healing but still chose to not meet with the girl.  The ending was happy but not sappy.  Really well done.  There is a suprize at the end so you have to watch the credits.  I can't wait to see another Pro Life movie John Schneider filmed here in Smithville called Doonby.  Either movie is a get way to celebrate life and especially ProLife month.

Thursday, January 3, 2013

January is Right to Life Month - Update

I wrote a blog 4 years ago about my feelings about being Pro-life and what I thought about the Pro-life and Pro-Abortion movements.  The sad thing is that I don't see that much has changed.  In a way that's a good thing.  We had been told that the Obama administration would push through all kinds of new legislation while some of that has gone through mostly things are the same for the moment.  I think in part this was due to the diligence and hard work of Pro-lifers.

I am sad though that we haven't seen any real progress.  We are wed to the Republican party because the Democratic party is wed to the Pro-abortion side but we have seen so little progress.  Because we have no choice we have no power to change things.  They know we have to vote for them or not vote at all.  At the same time we get legislation that may actually push a woman to abort a baby if she feels there is no support for her.

I think that an even bigger threat coming our way is the split in the Pro-life movement that may be caused by Obama care.  The Catholic Church may be forced to make hard decisions concerning the Healthcare systems we run.  To us being forced to provide abortifacients to employees is the same as being forced to pay for abortions done in an abortion clinic.  The Protestant side of Pro-life may not support us in our stance or our right to religious liberty.  We have to ready for this by praying to God for His help and to make strong for our peaceful fight.

I hope that the Catholic Church will not be left  standing alone.  I pray that all those who support life will support us in our rights even if they choose to not oppose contraception.  Only if we are united will we have a chance of winning.  If they are able to divide us then we are lost.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Resolutions for the new year

Our Priest today told this story.  The was a little boy and he asked his father, "Father if there are three frogs on a branch and one decides to jump off, how many frogs are left"?  The Father said "Easy, two".  "No"said the boy.  "Hummm" said the father "I know, the one frog jumped off so the other two followed, and now there are none".  "No" said the boy, "remember I only said the frog decided to jump, not that he did jump".  His point was that resolutions are wishes unless we take concrete steps to do them.  He recommended that we make concrete resolutions not wishes.  We should resolve to come closer to God, but instead to resolve to pray at a certain time every day, or to read spiritual books.  I really like that idea.

To strengthen ourselves for this task if we remember to take the Holy Child in our arms everyday He will strengthen us.  Also think if we are carrying the Holy Child into the world the Communion of Saints will be with us.  They are drawn to Him and as long as you hold Him in your arms, they will be with you also, helping you.

Today I watched again the movie "The Thirteenth Day" what a beautiful movie and a beautiful message.  If you want a good resolution for the next year resolve to say the rosary every day and so become closer to Our Lady, and so to her Son.

Love God with your whole heart everyday and carry that Love out into the world.  Show the world who our God is by how you treat them.  Carry the Child Jesus out into the world, when you meet anyone hold Him out to them and let them see Him.  When we don't show them Jesus by how we act, what they see they take to be Him anyway.  When we carry selfishness, judgement, hatred, out into the world instead, that is how the world sees Jesus.

May the Lord bless you and keep you.  May this next year bring you closer to Our Lord and so bring so many more to God.